Exploring Embodied Intimacy with Andre Lazarus
Sexual pleasure can be medicine, but only when woven with safety & consent. Unlike mainstream, porn-inspired sex, Embodied Intimacy is a somatic, relational, and healing practice, not a performance or technique. Present, connected, and embodied pleasure restores safety in the nervous system, dismantles shame around desire, and supports deeper connection in relationships. The concept of […]
YES! VIBRATORS CAN CAUSE NUMBNESS
Being in the field of sexology for over 17 years has given me the opportunity to witness and listen to the lived, embodied experiences of multitudes of women and people with Vulvas from around the globe. Hands down, without exception, almost every single woman has reported changes in or loss of clitoral sensitivity as a […]
What to do when he loses his erection during sex
How should we react when a partner is unable to maintain an erection? Between 40% and 70% of men may experience Erectile Dysfunction at some point. To put it in perspective, that’s nearly half of all men over 40! So, how should we respond when a partner has difficulty maintaining an erection? This week’s episode […]
ABORTION AND REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE
ABORTION AND REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE: An Essential Guide for Resistance, by Marlene Gerber Fried and Loretta J. Ross, is described as “A bold call to action and guide for building an inclusive and intersectional reproductive justice movement.”
Beyond The Clitoris: A Dissertation On Female Pleasure Zones
There is a concerning phenomenon in the field of sexology involving the emergence of a nearly militant insistence that the clitoris is the ONLY source of female orgasm. This viewpoint not only dismisses the lived experiences of millions of women but is also simply anatomically incorrect. Proponents of “Clit Only” Theology point to something called […]
What Is Holistic Sexology?
The term “holistic” refers to “wholeness.” When applied to wellness, holistic therapies consider mental, emotional, and social factors that can either support or hinder an individual’s well-being. Holistic Sexology encompasses all aspects of our humanity, addressing the needs of the body, the mind, the heart, our sexuality, and our spiritual connection to ourselves and the […]
Can I still have cervical orgasms after hysterectomy?
This is a very common question for many yoni owners who have had a hysterectomy, and there is no easy answer to this. Female Bodies are capable of over 11 different kinds of orgasmic pleasure, and at least 2 of these orgasmic sensations are dependent upon having an intact cervix and uterus, some (if not […]
Why can’t I feel pleasure?
A signifiant number of the women I have worked with believed at some point that their vaginas were broken due to numbness, pain and/or irritation during sex. I too used to believe that my vagina was broken. Then I learned about trauma and how it functions in the human body, causing desensitization, pain, and numbness. In […]
Sexual Healing For Black Women
Because of the dysfunctional relationship our society has with sex, most, if not all members of our society have some sort of wounding around sexuality. But our sexuality does not occur in a vacuum, and many of the issues that affect our everyday life, such as racism, microaggressions, and intergenerational trauma will also affect our sexual selves. […]
The Dangers of Sex Without Connection…
In our last article we shared how connection is instrumental to the kind of sex, or lovemaking, that is healing for the mind, body, and spirit. Connection is the key element that enables us to give to each other with love and compassion. Connection on the level of mind, body, and spirit creates such a […]