If you followed spiritual communities online in 2025, you likely noticed this topic: Polyamory, Aubrey Marcus, and “Radical Nonmonogamy”, etc., etc.
But are all these radical liberating concepts simply code words for “Polyfuckery,” i.e. fuck around without consequence?
The ongoing conversation around non-monogamy has made one thing very clear: The public is craving more nuance around love, sex, and spiritual growth.
And rightly so!
The Western models of relationships we have been indoctrinated into are sorely lacking and, as the 50%+ divorce rate indicates, deeply unfulfilling for literally MOST couples.
Over the past 17 years, we have witnessed many couples turn to Tantra to enhance and deepen their intimate connection. Unfortunately, Western Neo-Tantra has left many with the impression that polyamory is an essential component of practicing Tantra.
We are here to say, nothing could be further from the truth.
In this throwback episode of Tantra Talks from May 2025, we address one of the most common myths in Western Tantra:
Do you have to be polyamorous to practice Tantra?
Short answer: No.
But we go way deeper than that. You’ll discover how the unexpected choice of intentional monogamy could lead to more profound spiritual growth than you ever imagined, and learn about simple, powerful practices to transform any relationship context.
Here’s what we unpack:
- Why Tantra is not inherently polyamorous or monogamous
- The real danger of “poly-f*ckery” masquerading as spiritual awakening
- How non-monogamy can become another form of trauma reenactment
- How choosing “intentional monogamy” can serve as a powerful exploration in spiritual practice.
- How to make relationship choices from presence—not pressure or performance
- Our personal experiences navigating polyamory, swinging, and monogamy within a Tantric context.
The monogamy vs non-monogamy debate isn’t just a spicy trend—it’s a deeper call to examine your intention, nervous system, and patterns when it comes to how you love and connect.
The choice to engage with monogamy not by default, but with presence, purpose, and intention, provides the safety many of us need to explore our emotional landscapes and personal needs with clarity- similar to the exploratory nature of non-monogamous practices.
Rather than viewing intentional monogamy as a stance against non-monogamy, consider it as one of the many paths to deepening consciousness and self-awareness.
This journey, like any other, encourages curiosity and self-discovery, allowing one to examine their connections, both internally and externally, in a meaningful way.
While online debates may focus on who is “doing it right,” we offer a more thoughtful invitation:
What does your body, your heart, and your spirit need right now?
Whether you choose one partner or many, authentic, lineage-based Tantra is a practice focused on personal liberation, NOT lifestyle branding.
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Check out our Tibetan 5 Element Tantra Healing programs.
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