The Truth About Sex After 50
With GenX and Millennials officially entering (or having already entered) midlife, conversations about sex after 50 have become pervasive online. Generation X continues to demonstrate that the previous generations’ scripts around sex and aging are dusty, faded, and outdated. Those of us with our feet firmly planted in the midlife zone can attest to the […]
Sexual Healing for Cancer Survivors
What does it feel like to come home to your body as a cancer survivor? How do you reclaim pleasure, sensation, and connection to your body after treatment? The need to holistically address sexual wellness for cancer survivors is urgent, real, and often unrecognized by many medical professionals. Cancer and cancer treatments affect sexual function, […]
3 Intimacy Traps Sabotaging Your Sex Life
Are you sabotaging your sex life by falling into an “intimacy trap”? No, we’re not talking about love-bombing and emotional manipulation, we’re talking about the three biggest intimacy traps that men fall into when trying to navigate the complex landscape of post-pardom, perimenopause, hormonal fluctuations, and sex. For many men, regular, fun sex becomes a […]
Healing Porn Addiction with Mindfulness
The topic of porn addiction sparks controversy in the field of sexology, as some experts attribute it to sex negative religious conditioning, while others observe compulsive client behaviors that disrupt intimate relationships. Professionals who support men and women suffering from porn-addiction witness real and tangible consequences on relationships, mental health, and well-being. But is porn […]
The Healing Power of Sexuality and Hormones
Pleasure, or the lack thereof, can be a vital sign of our overall hormonal balance, affecting our physical, mental, and emotional wellness. Desire, arousal, and orgasm are not luxuries—they’re biomarkers of health, reflecting blood flow, nitric oxide, oxytocin, vagal tone, and nervous system balance. “Turn-on chemistry” (oxytocin, dopamine, nitric oxide) builds energy and resilience, while […]
Exploring Embodied Intimacy with Andre Lazarus
Sexual pleasure can be medicine, but only when woven with safety & consent. Unlike mainstream, porn-inspired sex, Embodied Intimacy is a somatic, relational, and healing practice, not a performance or technique. Present, connected, and embodied pleasure restores safety in the nervous system, dismantles shame around desire, and supports deeper connection in relationships. The concept of […]
Healing The Motherwound with Anna Linde
The Motherwound is a core wound related to nurturing, or the lack thereof. Modern psychology recognizes that insufficient nurturing has severe, often long-lasting, and sometimes irreversible effects on a child’s development. In fact, research indicates a strong, positive relationship between lack of nurturing (emotional neglect), abuse, and an increased risk of violent behavior in adulthood. […]
YES! VIBRATORS CAN CAUSE NUMBNESS
Being in the field of sexology for over 17 years has given me the opportunity to witness and listen to the lived, embodied experiences of multitudes of women and people with Vulvas from around the globe. Hands down, without exception, almost every single woman has reported changes in or loss of clitoral sensitivity as a […]
Can You Use Porn with Tantra?
What is the relationship between Tantra and modern pornography? Can there even be a relationship between these two seemingly disparate approaches to sexuality? At IHS, we don’t believe there is one easy, overarching answer to this question, as there are several factors to take into consideration, such as: What is the student’s relationship to porn? […]
Your Penis Is A Tool For Healing
In Tibetan Buddhist Tantra, Vajra means “diamond thunderbolt of wisdom.” A Vajra is a sacred healing tool, usually made of brass or another metal, that Tantric healers use to clear blocks in chakras and energy channels. You can think of it like an acupuncture needle, which also clears blocked energy pathways, known as meridians, in […]